6: Nancy Hadzima

Nancy Hadzima worked with my mom for many years at a public day care center in San Diego, California. She sees a connection between her background in sociology and psychology, and how she had a lot of sympathy for struggling parents and children she’d meet at the center. Nancy recalls how, sometimes, that sympathy put her at odds with my mom, who, as the child center supervisor, was her boss.

Nancy and I also share stories about losing parents, including how the loss of her father made it hard for her to enjoy Thanksgiving for many years. As we get into the 2017 holiday season, I'm reminded that the 2016 holidays were difficult for me as the first without my mom. From going to grief groups, I know that the holidays can be difficult for many people in mourning, especially if you lost someone at this time of year like Nancy did.

 

 

 My mom, Phyllis Badenhope (left), with Nancy Hadzima at my mom's retirement party at a park in Mission Bay, San Diego, California in 1991.

My mom, Phyllis Badenhope (left), with Nancy Hadzima at my mom's retirement party at a park in Mission Bay, San Diego, California in 1991.